Your Cart is Empty
Are you a bride and wondering if you said "yes to the wedding dress" a little too soon?? I'm digging in today and giving my best bridal fashion advice for brides who may find themselves going down the rabbit hole and second guessing their wedding dress choice. It's a lot of money and it's a lot of stress. I get it and I'm here for you!
Bridal dress regret. Wedding dress doubt. Wedding planning decision fatigue. Whatever you want to call it, if you’re asking yourself, "Did I say yes to the bridal dress too soon?" or "What do I do if I’m second guessing my wedding dress purchase?" I want you to know that you are not alone.
In fact, you’re in very good company.
Real quick though, before we go any further, if you're stressed at all, be sure to get my totally free Bridal Fashion Timeline. This is exactly what to do when do you don't miss out on your big day!
After working in the wedding industry for over 20 years, hand-making luxury wedding garters at The Garter Girl for thousands of brides, I’ve seen how this question creeps in. Sometimes it happens a few weeks after the dress appointment. Other times, it hits hard right after Bridal Market season, when the top bridal designers release their new collections and social media starts buzzing with never-before-seen gowns.
New Your Bridal Market can be an awesome and super exciting time of year, but if you're a bride shopping for your dream wedding dress, it can be confusing and overwhelming to say the least.
I'm going to put my "mom" and my "wedding industry veteran" hats on to walk you through what’s really going on behind that doubt, why you are not actually missing out, and most importantly, what to do to feel good again about the wedding dress you already said "yes" to.
(BTW if you need something fun to post on social media be sure to get my free yes to the dress Instagram graphics.)
Whether you’re worried that you chose too quickly, or feeling tempted by new bridal dress designs popping up on your feed, I'm sharing this advice is for you.
Let’s call it what it is. You're experiencing post-dress FOMO. The fear of missing out is real, especially after such a big decision like buying your wedding gown.
Here’s what often causes that second-guessing spiral:
Bridal fashion week or market just happened, and all the newest gowns are hitting Instagram, Pinterest, and TikTok
Your favorite bridal influencer or designer shared a dress that makes your heart flutter
You're watching friends or other brides try on dresses that feel different than what you chose
You're still early in your wedding planning and everything still feels so flexible, and overwhelming, like nothing is really final yet
Suddenly, your mind starts racing. You wonder if you were too quick. If you should have tried on more styles. Maybe you should have booked a few more appointments, been to a few more bridal stores. You're curious now if your dress still feels like you. You start to compare. Oh the comparison.
And just like that, the bridal gown that made you light up in the mirror now feels… not enough.
Sound familiar?
Let me say this loud and clear: You are not behind. You are not alone. And most importantly, there's nothing wrong with you. What is happening to you is perfectly normal. In fact, I'd be a little worried if you weren't a little confused and stressed about all of this!
This happens to so many brides. I talk to brides every week who are experiencing the same doubt. Social media and bridal fashion marketing are designed to make you want what you did not even know existed five minutes ago.
But that does not mean you made a mistake. It does not mean you picked too soon. It definitely does not mean your wedding dress is not good enough.
When you found your bridal gown, you had all the information, support, and access you needed to make a confident decision. You had the trends. You had the experts. Most importantly, you had your gut.
Let’s not forget that.
Now, here’s the part that nobody tells you but I will. This is something that no bridal designer will tell you. No wedding dress maker.
But, I'm in a unique position here as someone who has worked with brides for decades and seen thousands of wedding dresses up close.
There is very little that is actually new in bridal fashion.
Bridal designers, even the top ones, refresh the same beautiful, time-honored elements year after year. Lace. Floral embroidery. Satin. Pearls. Sleeves. No sleeves. Dramatic veils. Statement bows.
It all circles back.
So when you see a new bridal dress go viral maybe from bridal market or maybe because a celebrity worse it for their wedding day, and feel like you missed out, take a second look.
The silhouette may be similar to one you tried. The neckline might echo your own. The "new" details might just be a different spin on something timeless — and likely already present in the wedding dress you chose.
Or, and this is a huge "or" - that probably trend isn't good for you. Maybe it doesn't sit right on your neckline. Maybe it doesn't work with your torso or your arms or the length of your legs or your frame. Maybe a certain silhouette, style, detail or dress cut is all the rage right now, but if it wasn't made to flatter your body type, no amount of alternations can make it work.
Looking and feeling like your most confident and beautiful self is the most important part of a any wedding dress. If something doesn't fit you or your body, it will be written all over your face on your wedding day. No one wants that for you. No trend is worth it.
Bridal trends are meant to inspire, but not to distract you from your own joy.
Let’s shift from overthinking to action. Here are three simple steps to help you feel calm, clear, and confident again when it comes to your wedding dress.
Your wedding dress is one of the most important pieces of clothing you'll ever purchase and wear and I want you to love it. Like love it, love it.
Temptation lives in your scroll.
If the endless stream of wedding gowns is making your head spin, take a break. Mute those bridal accounts for a while. Unfollow if you need to. Reset your social media algorithm. Platforms like Instagram and TikTok now give you the option to adjust your feed. Use it.
You do not need to be marketed to anymore. You found your wedding dress. Let the rest go.
There was a moment when you felt something powerful in that wedding dress. Maybe it was the fit. Maybe it was the fabric. Maybe it was the way your mom or best friend teared up when you stepped out of the fitting room.
That moment mattered.
Go back to it. Look at the photos. Close your eyes and remember how you felt. You lit up. That energy was real.
This was not just a purchase. It was a connection. Do not let comparison steal that from you.
If you’re still feeling unsure, consider making an appointment at your bridal boutique. Many shops offer accessory or styling sessions. These can be incredibly helpful for seeing your dress with the full look like purchasing a veil, jewelry, shoes, even hair ideas.
Sometimes, it is not about needing a new dress. It is about needing to see the dress, your dress, come to life again in a new context.
You can also ask to try your sample gown on again if the shop allows it. A small fee might be involved, but it can bring you the peace of mind you are looking for.
A lot of brides hesitate to share these feelings because they feel guilty. Like maybe they should just be grateful. Or like they are being difficult.
Let me stop you right there.
It is OK to have mixed emotions. This is not just about fabric and lace. This is about how you see yourself on one of the most meaningful days of your life.
So yes, the feelings are big. And yes, they are valid.
But also remember that perfection is not the goal. Feeling like yourself is.
If your wedding dress helps you feel confident, beautiful, and true to who you are, it is the right dress. Even if something trendier just landed on your feed yesterday.
One last thing. You may be asking, did I say yes to the wedding dress too soon? Is there more out there? Did I miss something? Should I book another appointment at another shop?
The answer is no.
You said "yes to the dress" at the exact right time. You trusted yourself. And you are still that same bride who fell in love with her dream wedding dress.
You are not late. You are not behind. You are exactly where you’re supposed to be.
Trends will come and go. But your story, your style, and your wedding dress? They are timeless.
And besides who wants to feel trendy on their wedding day? Said no bride ever.
You want to look back at your wedding photos in 5 years, 10 years, 20 years and still be in love with that timeless, beautiful wedding dress that make you feel amazing.
Helping brides feel amazing and stress-free is what I do best. From custom wedding garters made with family heirloom materials to the perfect something blue for the bride to bridal fashion planning tools that take the guesswork out of your wardrobe, everything I create is designed to help you feel beautiful, seen, and supported.
You deserve to feel good about your decisions. Your dress included.
And if you ever need a gentle reminder of how far you’ve come in your planning journey, I’m always just a few clicks away here at The Garter Girl.
Be sure to get your copy of my free Bridal Fashion Timeline. This is exactly what to do when do you don't miss out on your big day!
