How to Do the Garter Toss the Classy Way

We’ve all heard the horror stories. I’ll even spare you some of the insane wedding garter toss pictures that can be found with a simple Google search. Suffice to say that a lot can go wrong during the wedding garter toss ceremony at any wedding reception, even to the nicest of couples.

If you want to do the wedding garter toss ceremony, here are a few quick tips to help make the whole tradition go a lot smoother…

Relax…Yes, you have to take a deep breath and just go with it. If you are tense or worried, it will show. Try to relax, enjoy the moment and have a good time.

Pick a song…Often times the band or DJ will allow you to choose your songs in advance for the different parts of the reception. They might even be able to make some suggestions. Talk to your fiance’ in advance and pick a song that you can both agree on. Preferably one that will put you at ease and get you excited. Remember that there might be a few grandparents in the room, so if you want to go the classy route stick with something that won’t offend delicate ears.

Talk it over…Before you are sitting in that chair, make sure you and your fiance’ are on the same page about how the ceremony should go down. Talk to him/her in advance about what you want and what would make you and your guests comfortable.

Pull your dress up…
Some of the worst wedding photos are the ones where the poor groom has his head up the bride’s dress looking for the garter. It is dark under there, so help your partner out and pull your dress up a little bit.

Extend your leg…
Put your leg out slightly, but not too much so that you give your guests a sneak peek of too much. Any help or direction that you can provide your partner will be appreciated.

Don’t look at the camera…The worst thing you can do is to be worried about where the camera is and to try to pose for photos. Trust that your photographer will do his/her job and get the good shots. Some of the best wedding photos are the candid shots when the couples are relaxed, having fun and being themselves.

Keep your eye on your partner…
One thing that might really freak you out is scanning the crowd and seeing grandparents and friends all gathered around. Keep your focus on your partner and try to enjoy the moment.

Any other tips that I’m missing? Leave a comment below, I’d love to know your advice for classing up the wedding garter ceremony.

More questions about the wedding garter? Check out my garter 101 blog series!


  1. pam March 4, 2013

    Hi there is this the only way that the gartar can be tossed? going up the brides dress? thank you

  2. Curtis Wallis February 25, 2010

    Great Site and product. Last tip. Believe it or not happens allot. Do not throw the garter (or bouquet) up. Throw it straight out. Have had to get several from hanging lights.

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